Based on knowledge given, what someone does see before their eyes, as well as familiarity and experience they have regardless of any from an earlier situation related or not to their current situation, and personal desires – These are what define a person’s perception. How we view a situation is based on what we have gained from a collective of experience and knowledge we’ve had throughout our lives, no matter how young or old we are. There is always more to a situation than just what you see in the moment. What you do see is not always all that there is to see. While you may have more experience and/or knowledge with a particular subject, or in handling certain situations than another does, someone with less experience and/or knowledge may see something you don’t. It all comes from what you focus on seeing. Someone newer to a subject or situation may point out something you overlook. In time we come to gain more experience and knowledge, yet time isn’t always on our side as we have short-lived lives. To truly understand a situation there is a lot that needs to be taken into consideration – Especially when it involves a person or even a group of people.
When a person decides to say or do something, you won’t know exactly why they choose to the instant they do it. You’ll probably be able to put together a motive about why, using past conversations and actions the person has carried out to prove your reasoning for believing what you think is the reasoning behind their actions. That’s not to say you won’t be correct – More often than not you will be correct, so long as you have knowledge of many other times that a person has said or done something alike to what they are doing in the moment, or that could explain about why they decided to do what they did. Yet if you only look at a behavioral pattern without putting more thought into other areas for finding reasons someone does what they do and have done, you miss out on other information that would help you form a more whole understanding of what’s before your eyes. This is a very broad area of thought as there can be any number of reasons why someone acts the way they do. Someone that acts arrogant, may choose to overlook facts as they want to be right about their own choice, so much so that they ignore the truth of what is around them. If something feels wrong to them that doesn’t suit their own taste or desire(s), one or all of these will be apart of the reason someone does what they do.
The reasons why someone will say or do something can be from their past or current environment affecting their choices, or how they were nurtured throughout their life since birth. Continuing with the example from before, let’s say this person was raised to believe certain things. It could be a religion, of how they should behave when socializing, what they should believe about people, or a way they learn to live their life due to how the rest of the life around them treats them. A mix of those nurturing ways can be what leads someone to become who they are today, and more often than not are all of those factors for most people. A person’s perspective can change gradually or instantly as time goes by – Something could be happening that is realized very slowly, or one day a person just starts thinking in a different way, changing the way they behave to better suit their new way of thinking and belief(s). Some times a person can just be fed up with how they are treated, or with outside influences pressuring them to believe/behave a certain way when it conflicts with their thoughts and desires that they have and wish to fulfill. This can come to be from disrespect, physical and verbal abuse, feelings of neglect, and many other things along the same lines. When someone feels as if there are walls around them that they can’t get out of, or road-blocks wherever they try to go, some times they change in a dramatic way from how they’ve acted before to break away.
Changes such as behavior don’t always happen slowly or instantly. When you have thought a certain way for a while and you come to realize that something needs to change in your life, that it may have to be yourself, it usually takes a bit of time to get used to it. From experience, the only way you change instantly is by going off instinct and being impulsive. Some times it is more instinct than being impulsive, at other times it is the other way around. Change can be good so long as you take time to understand things as you go – Not just of yourself and assessing how you’re acting, but of how your actions both affect and effect the life around you. You won’t truly be able to understand the true reason(s) behind how someone may choose to behave, the reason(s) for which behind their actions. Something like that can take a while to grasp unless you’re familiar with it – The more familiar you are, the easier it is for you to comprehend. There is much more depth than people these days tend to think on, or really try to figure out as they lack the patience to do it more than in the heat of a moment. At other times, such as when someone says they prefer to hear a person in question explain themselves to them, people choose to not bother for fear of what they could think of as they don’t want to accept it as a possibilities that go against their desire(s).
Desire is a feeling that people have for something specific. It is the feeling that can drive us to strive for what we secretly wish to have. It is something that can come from how society portrays any given thing with praise, or how a society views someone due to traditional ways of life. The more pressure someone feels from outside sources or believe that they need a certain thing for any given reason, the more a person will desire something. These feelings of desire can blind our judgment – The more we want something to be true, the harder it is to allow ourselves to see what is true and what is false. When we are lead to believe certain things are true of anything, without putting forth the question why something is what it is aside from the given explanation, we allow ourselves to be blinded when a situation comes up that goes against what we are lead to believe. Arrogance can come from being allowed or given various things in their life that build up a person’s ego; when someone is rarely told “No” or not often met with resistance when trying to do anything they feel like doing, they can easily gain a bit of a God complex. They could also have gone through times where people looked down on them, telling them “No” and giving resistance when they tried doing anything – This can create a great deal of anger if they feel mistreated, which could be what make a person arrogant and even stubborn.
Whether due to a fear of the truth or a desire for a number of things, these hinder our perception when allowed to be given a voice in how we perceive a situation. The only thing you can really do when it faced with a personal fear is face it – Seek to think more about it, about why it bothers you, all the way down to the simplest detail. Another part of it is seeking understanding of the possibility that you fear. The possibilities that I’m talking about are of how someone may act and why. The reasons why stem back to deeper rooted emotions and/or thoughts, to experiences that added to what someone has thought, have been taught or learned to live, and what they have been taught about the life around them. How someone learns also plays a role in this as it is an experience they went through in not just gaining knowledge, but how they perceive future situations alike to the lessons they learned. What they may take from an experience may just be their opinion of what they were seeing and not was intended to be communicated. No matter what someone does, there is always much more than you will see simply by seeing with only your eyes and hearing with only your ears.
Life is a puzzle of all that is around us – Our environment, nature, and the minds of those alive which includes yours too. You may miss a piece or two here and there as you live, only to find them later on. You may even believe you have the right pieces fitting where they should, only to find they don’t belong there, that they belong elsewhere or not even in the puzzle at all. This comes from the experiences we have and the knowledge we learn as we live our lives. These lessons that we learn shouldn’t attempt to be forced or taken as wholly true with no possible flaw in our reasoning. Though our lives are short-lived in the grand scheme of things, we do have time to find the pieces we are missing to teach to future generations to come. Searching for answers shouldn’t be something you choose to focus all of your time on trying to understand – When you focus all of your time trying to understand one thing, you miss out on living your life and of the lives around you, the places you’ll find answers to questions as you live. If you don’t take the time to breathe and live your life, you only cause yourself unneeded stress and pressure. You waste your time as there’s a whole world that is going on around you. Take some time when you can to catch your breath and think about things, but don’t forget to live your life. Your perception only grows with time from experiences and lessons you learn, and with the knowledge you seek out and pick up as you live – Effort in seeking understanding should be done, but it should not consume most of your time.
(Here is the follow-up piece to this one: Belief)