People don’t always know how to react to things that go on. They see things, when they don’t understand it fully, or when they are unfamiliar with it, usually, in the blunt sense – What they see before them initially. Whether it is the words to a song, someone’s appearance, a painting, a phrase that is spoken, a speech that is given or an action that is made, when faced with something that is before you, something that you have never had to deal with before or have seen before, it’s worth questioning it. It is worth seeking to understand it. In understanding, you learn more about the world you live in and in understanding yourself along the way. Most people choose to not talk about things that kids should know as they see it as inappropriate. Why? Because they’d rather not have what they consider “bad” or “wrong” influence their kid(s). It leaves a kid to think on their own with limited knowledge, and given certain life-styles and/or situation, it is taught in the wrong light. Taught in a way that truly is wrong, a way that makes something seem right when it truly is the wrong way. This usually breeds an incorrect way of seeing things more often than not.
From the time you are a child, in America and many other places, people lie to you, hide the truth from you. That isn’t true for everyone, don’t get me wrong. There are many that learn about this world the hard way. Things that should never happen, that shouldn’t have to happen, happen. Hiding all that is bad from children to allow them to keep their innocence only makes it harder for them to keep when they learn about the truth. It makes them question everything, usually, in the wrong way. In the way no one ever wants them to learn. It may leave them thinking, “Why? Why is this happening? Was it something I did? Is there something I could have done? What should I do? Is there anyone I can go to? Is there someone who can help me understand? Is there someone who can help me?” It forms a challenge for a young mind, innocent and ignorant of the world around them, to comprehend in a healthy way for their own mind to process. It leads to negative thoughts, thoughts that stay hung up on something that happened, making it more difficult than it should ever be on their mind and their emotions to handle.
When people lack a teacher, a mentor, someone to guide their mind and answer their questions when they come up, even before they have questions to form because they are left ignorant of the world, they turn to media or to other people around them. They need to learn from someone, or from something. People learn from one another, people learn from things others make. Those all vary in what can be learned from them. The ways they can be perceived are not guaranteed to be the same for everyone, every time. Growing up, personally, I was sheltered greatly. It was due to many factors: Family, school, TV that I was raised to watch due to my age. I wasn’t allowed to watch TV past a certain time. I wasn’t allowed to watch anything I thought was interesting. Things weren’t explained to me in words aside from “You’re too young”, or “That’s bad”. Things weren’t explained. People spent so much time protecting not just myself, but other children like my brother, from the truth. They didn’t want us to learn about the things we would eventually learn about.
I’m not saying, at all, that I had a rough life. I was fortunate to not have had one. What happened with me was that I was raised to believe my family would always be there for me, that family was close, that blood was bond. That all meant nothing at all once I realized how I was being treated differently. One side of my family had a tendency to blame me for things I didn’t do, as when I was little I would joke around, attempt to play pranks all in the name of good fun, to make others laugh. I also would take the blame for one of my younger cousins when she did something wrong. Discipline was simple for that side of the family: Yell at the child as if they were a pet that did something wrong, but beat them like a nun with a ruler in a Catholic school if she used her hands. There weren’t arguments when I was accused of something. I could be far from where something occurred, yet be blamed for it without being around. I remember being at family gatherings and being inside while everyone else would be outside, only to have one of my parents come in and yell at me, and beat me a bit. I didn’t get the shit beat out of me, I was just beat on. It was something my parents grew up with for punishment themselves, something that Catholic families from when they grew up did.
It sucked to have happen when there was no reason. Though there were times when I did do something wrong, yet I wouldn’t understand it because I wasn’t told why. I would be told “You don’t do that, because it isn’t right”, and expected to understand fully from that moment on what I had done. Most of my childhood I remember being confused, or just completely ignorant. If there wasn’t something I didn’t know that others did, that they thought everyone knew already, I’d be snapped at, or talked down to, even both. It’s just how people chose to react based on who they were at the time. The more people learn about you, the more they understand who you are, they treat you differently. Depending on how people perceive you, they treat you differently. There are those out there that treat everyone the same, don’t get me wrong, I know that, but typically you don’t meet those people in this world. That’s not to say you won’t, keep that in mind. It is the choice of an individual to say or do anything, not a group. As a collective a group can make bad choices, and it is each of their own choices.
Everyone is ignorant of various things in this world. When something is confusing you, it helps to take a step back and assess the situation at hand. Take a breather. Figure out what you understand, and what you don’t understand. This goes hand in hand with trying to teach another of any given thing; if someone is having trouble grasping an idea, grasping what you are trying to teach them, take a step back and assess what you do know. When teaching another or learning from someone, teamwork is needed. We all learn in different ways. Communication is essential in understanding and to learn from one another. No one will ever know everything. Not everyone will understand you, whether as a student or a teacher, unless you work on how you communicate with one another. When you hit a dead-end, it’s an end to the current path you’re on, leading into many other paths waiting to be found. That’s life.
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